Sunday, July 27, 2014

Courting vs. Dating

Have you ever wondered about the difference between courting and dating? Is there one? It's something that puzzled me, so I decided to research it and provide you with an answer, hopefully pointing out what's bad or good.
I asked my  AWESOME friends (public school, homeschool, and college age) -who had no idea I was going to write this- their opinions on dating and courtship.
Dating:
  • "Dating is when a couple think that they might like each other, so they go out to find out." - M. S. age 12.
  • "Dating doesn't always lead to a relationship." - from a Huffington Post advice column
  • "Dating is when you go out with a guy think you might like." - M. A., age 19
  • "Dating is just preparing you for divorce!!" T.M, 21
  • "Dating is a fun time to get to know guys better." E. M, 13
  • "Dating is when you hang out with a guy to get to know him before you get married." S.C., 13
  • "Dating is practice for being married. " B. T., 15
It's the last comment that scares me the most. When you're dating, and something goes awry, what do you do?

You break up.
Is that what you're going to do when you get married? Break up with your husband? I think T. M might be right - it sounds more like practice for divorce.

Or what about '"Dating doesn't always lead to a relationship." '? Isn't dating supposed to be a time when you form a relationship with your future husband?
Let's move on to courting before we form an opinion. ;)
Courting:
  • "Courtship is a relationship between a man and a woman when they seek to determine if it is God’s will for them to marry each other." R. D., 23, my leader @ STEP ! 
  •  "Isn't that when you don't kiss till you get married?" M.S, 12 :D
  • ""Courtship is a choice to avoid temptation and experience the blessings of purity. It is a choice to not emotionally give away your heart, piece by piece, to many others through casual dating relationships and instead to give your whole heart to your life partner." A Christian website
  • "When you're courting, your parents help you make some decisions. Not because they want to control your life, but because they're older, more experienced,and have ideas to help you." T.M, 21
All these comments seem to describe the kind of relationship I'd like, even M.S's comment. Wouldn't you rather receive a brand new gift instead of one that's been opened many times?! How much more would you value a guy who saved his first kiss for you, and vice versa? Also, courtship isn't about 'breaking up' if stuff doesn't work out, Under the protection, guidance, and blessing of parents, the couple concentrates on developing a deep friendship that could lead to marriage, as they discern their readiness for marriage and God’s timing for their marriage. (See Proverbs 3:5–7.)

I'm definitely going to court when I'm older. MUCH OLDER, thank you very much. :)


READ THIS BOOK. PLEASE. I'm out of time to explain why tonight, but look for a post on it soon. It explains the above stuff much more clearly! :)

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